Life is hard.....it is really hard when you are stupid!
Sgt. Stryker in "The Sands of Iwo Jima"....played by John Wayne as I recall.
Does that not apply here folks?
Why is it a surprise to anyone that others judge them by different rules than they themself use? Always has been....and always shall be that way.
You want to fit in amongst a group of people...then mimic the way the act, think, dress, and embrace the philosophy of the group. If you don't....and you don't get accepted....then whose fault is that?
If in time the "accepted norms" change and thus embrace you....fine....until then look somewhere else that will accept you.
That is life....deal with it.