Can't be arsed reading the whole thread, I'll just add an experience I had...
On a trip from London to York, it looked like it would be a much easier job to go on top of the clouds. However the destination airfield was just that - a field. A quick phone call to the nearby RAF base (Church Fenten IIRC) and they said something like "Normally we'd offer you an ILS and then you could divert once VMC, but it's U/S. How about SRA?" Since my knowledge of SRA is purely academic, I had to decline the offer, but it was good that the flexibility was there.
I think that most places are happy to help, it's just a question of communication.