There are always two sides to every story.
When all captains have a problem with the same F/O's attitude, or visa versa, then who is the problem.
It is interesting to hear people talk about "poor old Tom, Dick or Harry". More often than not, when you have knowledge of Tom through having checked him on several occassions, you know he is becoming more conservative as he he gets older. Is this his experience at work (we know there are no old, bold pilots) or is it 'retirement protection' - not wanting to do anything that will cause his head to be seen above the horizon?
The respect any of us receive is not the four bars, it comes through our integrity, professional performance and competence.
In aviation there has to be an atmosphere of trust and confidence. We have all had days where we were more on alert because we were flying with Tom!
Remember this new bred of F/O's are our children, their behaviours are a result of our acceptance. Oh for the good old days!