Steady Shipmates!
Post 1 suggests that the lady's father was not around during her childhood.
This has several connotations eg; father had legged it, was unknown parent, etc. Of course it might simply be that not much was said at home but if father is still alive, he might be a tad miffed if sprog bursts in to upset family harmony! A night of passion behind the Brawdy NAAFI could be about to blow up.
Have checked the Armed Forces Roll of Honour and he ain't on there, so he did not die in service.
Old Duffer