For what it's worth ... the original incident was not being "raised" by crew at all: it was raised by me, a pilot. A crew member was reflecting on the airline he previously worked at, with the understanding from some captains there of what it meant to work as a team. In contrast to this, he remarked about the captain on this trip who, whilst he had actually been a decent person, seemed unengaged by what was happening in the cabin beyond expecting to be served his courses according to first class standards. It was me who was shocked enough by this to post.