I help people with a fear of flying and the subject is too complicated to be fully covered on this forum, however, the basic beliefs you have to work on adopting are:
- There's nothing wrong in having a fear of flying ... get rid of any "fear of the fear of flying"
- Sometimes, very rarely, things do go pear shaped on an aircraft ... just as sometimes, not so rarely, things go pear shaped on the highway. That's reality ... accept it.
- You might get anxious on a flight ... but, also understand that you will deal with it and ... you won't die from it.
If you can do this, you're half way there.