One thing I would say is that you are paying the instructor for advice.
After such as experience, it is entirely reasonable for you to wish to talk over your decisions with your instructor and is an integral part of the learning process.
For him to ignore your question is, in my opinion, unprofessional.
I would consider if you wish to continue flying with someone who behaved like that, at the very least I would call him/her and say that you would like a proper debrief and when would it be convenient to meet.
As to your decision making, you tried to diagnose the problem and fix it, you thought about your options and you made a clear decision and stuck by it, recovering the aircraft safely.
Would I have done the same thing? Absolutely irrelevant, as you were PIC.
Well done and good luck.
