So 411A you dont listen to what your FE says, all your copilots are next to useless, you dont trust your cabin crew cant remember if you trust your groundcrew...... so who do you trust on your aircraft? Bet I would not last very long in your outfit and there would be fun words spoken on the flight deck that is for sure. I wonder how many crew shudder when they see your name as captain on a long trip..... Must be lonely drinking on your own on stop overs.
The SCCM made a judgement call whether it was right or wrong as she could not get a word in with the Flight Crew (you were not the captain were you) If it had turned to custard she would have been the undoubted hero of the show. As for calling her names, I really do think you should give it a rest and retire.