Felix Saddler - thank you for the information. All seems very useful and will make sure I spend some time using the info you have given me.
Whirlygig - No, I wasn't enough of a leader, and too much of a team player - that was the issue. I was coming up with creditable ideas, just not pushing them through. I'm willing to take advice from anybody, just not insults.
P-T - thank you for your thoughts. A useful input.
Genghis the Engineer - again, thanks alot. Some really useful reference points there. They may help towards my understanding that is the grey area between leadership and decision-maker