Have you thought about 'bush flying'? Surely the opportunities for it, where you come from, are pretty good if you're patient. I know I'm not everybody, but if I were in your shoes, that's what I'd be aspiring to - must be amazing.
I have a family and am in training right now; I have to admit that a fairly open minded approach to flexibility and location is needed, regarding the opportunities out there.
Oh, I'm not too hot on heights either. I did some climbing in the Alps in the summer and nearly pooped my pants! Absolutely fine in a plane or under a parachute though!
Good Luck