Just wanted to put my tuppance worth in.
First, thank god for people who advise communication. I haven't even started flying yet (starting in the next couple of weeks, now I've had a trial), but I know none of you would expect ATC to guess what you were going to do, so you communicate. Same for your partner. Well done for actually asking, rather than guessing!
Next, I have a very similar situation. My partner is fine with me learning to fly, a bit worried about the costs, but understandably worried about my safety. Stats make no difference, especially since I go to work each day on a motorbike :-)
Lastly, on the subject of bike safety, I am led to believe that the overall number of accidents may have gone up, but the number of fatalities in comparison to the number of riders on the road has gone down vastly. Also, that the majority of those fatalities are with no other car involved, or bike crossing the centre line into oncoming traffic.
As a good friend, who is a bike copper said to me--- bad luck can strike any time, but if riding a bike was all about luck, how come I have ridden every day for 26 years and never had an accident.....I am taking that principle into learning to fly. Good training, careful planning and attention to detail beat the odds every time!
Good luck, and please feel free to rave about flying to me any time. I couldn't stop, and have only been up once!
(now, to sell the house and fund the next few lessons !!!!)