Hi Kintoa,
congratulations on your new addition. Sounds like you are doubly blessed as you have a husband that can see through to the crux of the matter and give you some sound but blunt advice! Sounds like he is also blessed that you can take such advice as well.
Keeping one's perspective can be hard when a situation angers you, seems like you have a wise head on your shoulders in seeking opinion from others before launching into a battle with your employer. Even more importantly you have listened to that advice and seem willing to act on it, many people would not have done so. Enjoy your return to work.