Chuck,
If it was not for the time zone difference I would call you right now. I am very sorry to hear this sad news.
Although you can not be spared the pain of your loss, I hope you will find some comfort in knowing you have many friends out there...perhaps maybe more than than you might even remember at the moment.
I will call you when I return to Nanaimo in November.
Until then, take good care.
David E