Weight and balance?

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Originally Posted by trex450

more than a few thousand hours command time

Command of what, exactly? I ask because I cannot see any commercial pilot behaving as you did: They tend to be rather more familiar with the process and etiquette involved in these situations. Since your profile does not contain information about your 'Command' time, or flying qualifications, I did a search of your previous posts. It would appear that your 'Command' time is in charge of GA aircraft, with some non-flying military experience involved?
If you are, in fact, the Captain of a commercial airline jet, and have obtained your few thousand hours in that role, then I will apologise (although this should ideally be reflected in your user profile to avoid any possible confusion).

What happened to you trex450 is a pretty normal event, dealt with routinely by CC all over the world on a daily basis. What made your experience different was that you refused to comply. I can't speak for the attitude of an individual CC since I wasn't there: Since your behaviour had been detailed by yourself, it is possible to assess that more accurately.

You were given a clear instruction by a crew member and refused to comply. We don't go about our daily business amending the safety procedures in order to comply with the imaginary degree of proficiency of individual passengers. You may have heard a 'crew seat for take-off' PA, but apparently know little enough of the industry to appreciate that it is not the cue for individual passengers to decide to comply (or not) with regulations. Your hypothetical familiarity with the PA, the airfield, and indeed, anything else that may happen is, in this instance, sadly irrelevant.

Your behaviour in this instance, allied with your views on the OP's W&B incident have 'outed' you as not being quite what you would like to be - If not in your mind, at least to airline staff on PPRuNe.