I agree, I've seen a certain degree of emulation between those once sitting on the right who also once complained insesently about flying with particular Captains. They are now in the hotseat and display similar traits.....but not everyone. There is no real frustration expressed with regard to not being or becoming a Captain within my lot. Generally the path to command occurs quickly or alternatively you choose not to take it. Believe me, the other frustrations that develop once sitting in the left seat are more prevalent currently!
Have I asked Captains who effectively want to make every last decision within the flightdeck why they disagree with my particular method. Generally no IF...
1) I know my method is the method expressed within our SOPs and OPs requirements and that he prefers an alternative due to lack of understanding, ease of use or just pure arrogance.
2) When I understand that questioning their particular reasoning or method
will only create tension for the remainder of the day.
3) When their decision will neither kill me or get me in trouble. It may frustrate me, however I will act professionally.
If he is being an unbearable prick throughout the entire day I might take it up once the parking brake is set and the engines are shut down on the last sector of the day. The flightdeck is no place for potential feuding. I have only ever
done this once and we resolved it amicably. If I were to feel threatened to the point that the Captains actions were affecting my ability, I would hand them
control. Not because I don't feel like playing any longer; because my ability has been hampered. I've never had to do this thankfully; but I would do it because I'm not going to **** about with a 60tonne aircraft in a fit of rage.
The best Captains are the ones who suggest another method or another approach tactfully. They give reasoning and by doing so have always ensured that I for one are receptive. These very Captains have helped mould many FOs. They also agree that point no.3 is particulary relevant to anyones learning curve. The line is drawn beyond that.
Just my two cents