Iambourne
You mention offering tea and conversation to your elders...and a whole bunch about ...when the FOM requires me to talk to the elderly et. al.
I will bet that your FOM mentions CRM, or whatever your airline calls it. having taught CRM, there is a concept of crew building, of establishing a raport in which all crew members can speak up on safety.
by your own statements, not even offering the tiniest of pleaseantries, You are a hazard in the cockpit.
There are two ways to operate a cockpit. The old way and the newer ''crm'' way.
So, sit down, shut up and don't touch anything
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It is nice to be flying with you. I've been on the plane about two years, how about you?
WEll, let's help each other be safe...speak up if you are uncomfortable or see something that isn't SOP. Always call traffic to me and don't report it to ATC until we both agree. Same with calling the airport.
Do you have anything to add?