The bigger picture....
Guys ,you got to get real here, there are plenty other worthwhile, rewarding careers out there with much better T&C's. We all love to fly and are passionate about all things aviation and all aspire to that great career in the skies, tasting the wine of the gods! but the fact is life is too short to be waiting around for something that may never happen especially when you see whats happening in the industry. After all its only a job that provides an income at the end of the day. I think if you havent got any reward in terms of flight careers and have exhausted every avenue and resource, you seriously got to look at the bigger picture and really consider some other path in life and be true to yourself and your family.
There is always the option to keep flying privately with your local flying club, or getting involved in a group share to keep the passion alive. Its not the end of the world. Dont let it destroy your life.