Change instructor sounds like good advice. A friend of mine went through this (with a female ex-military instructor) and quit for good. It is ridiculous that a foul-up early on should waste the rest of the lesson. Instead of shouting, why can't your FI take the controls/radio/whatever, explain what went wrong, set you a new task, and move on?
I got overloaded too, frequently, but I think I was luckier with the instructors I had.