Katamarino, when your wife says "its me or the glider", your choice is clear!
Molesworth, yes of course your family deserves your time, your attention, and your money, that is, until the kids have finally flown the nest...
and then, happy and rare is the man or woman whose partner shares your true love interest! A compromise is the usual solution, yes dear, garden club, horse riding, even travel, if I am allowed my day at the gliding club to fly and to help out.
Layabouts and moaners are alas part of any human endeavor, irritating those who pull their weight; we grit our teeth and accept their fees, and discount their excuses, and when it is their turn to ask for help, it can be slow to arrive.