If there is a massive massive failure from the management is this: THEY DIVIDED A WORKFORCE..THAT IS THE BIGGEST BIGGEST FAILURE OF ALL.ONCE YOU DIVIDE YOUR WORKFORCE YOU HAVE FAILED COMPLETELY.
It was BASSA and Unite that picked this battle. Not BA. It was BASSA and Unite that initiated the ballots for industrial action and it was cabin crew that gave BASSA and Unite the mandate to wreak absolute havoc with it. It is BASSA that has been issuing all the anti-pilot/management bile and you can't blame BA for doing all that it can to mitigate the impact of the strikes.
You chose to dig youselves into the massive hole you now find yourselves in.
If anything, the company has been very patient and very tolerant of some very petulant behaviour. You should consider yourselves very lucky the company has staved off one of the "nuclear" options. If it had, this would have all been dealt with 9 months ago.