As no doubt there would be a bunch of people just lining up to give her the benifit of their bitterness, the fact that she has not been outed makes sense just for that reason alone. Maybe she should out herself ?
That said, it's a small service and how many pregnanat officers are there in it.....
Maybe if she gave the 16k to H4H or the RAFBF then max respect to the lady
But as I said before, I would love to know the real story.