1. No-one is going to hold your hand towards a job in the civil world - it's dog-eat-dog these days. Fact.
2. See
LASORS 2008 | Personnel Licensing | Safety Regulation and download the relevant sections, particularly Section D.
3. Accept the fact that, irrespective of your FJ time,
anyone with the same time on ME aircraft will have a head start. 'ME' implying multi-engined multi-pilot aeroplanes (for simplicity) - 2 stick time in a Tornado is
not 'multi-pilot' time as far as the CAA is concerned.
Basically, once you have 2000 hrs TT of which 1500 are PIC, things become easier for non-ME aeroplane pilots. You have to do a bridging 'theory' course and sit 5 exams, then do some flying on an MEP Class aeroplane to qualify for an IR and Class Rating.
LASORS explains all - and is free to download.