I agree that military flying is inherently risky and I consider myself fortunate to have made the same number of landings as take offs. The original post hit a chord with me.
At risk of being called a BOF, it's not too long ago that Lightning losses were one a month. We lost 48 F4s over the time it was in service, again at a rate of one a month at times. Very little of that was underfunding, (nor fortunately at that time through combat losses), although there were never enough spares. We do, however, have short memories and I'm yet to find the aircrew mate who made a deliberate mistake.
I also agree that cheque book warfare is appalling and responsible for many deficiencies but accidents will always happen.