Kirsty
I know that you do have a point about a male focused Ops environment and all the banter, but for an Ops Manager and as previously stated, it would be a nightmare to manage. The reason that all in the industry know about your situation is that you declared it previously on an industry wide email! Maybe a bit more discretion, especially when after many years in the industry, you would be aware of 'how it works'. I think again, as previously stated, it might be good to move on, reflect on a long career and all the 'stories', of which there were many in the early days, it really isn't that much fun anymore!
Chopper