I finally heard the radio transmissions involved. yes the " we gotta talk" sounded more like a romantic breakup than what I would have said:
I would have said: we are reporting a tcas evasive maneuver and a near mid air collision.
sadly, I can't view the radar track.
also, the san diego bit was a 727 on final for runway 27 while the cessna had just finished a practice ILS to runway9 ouch.
always be looking for traffic.