Mike,
If you really care about your 'family' admit defeat. Pull the plug, give us a chance to claim redundancy. Houses, cars, personal credit ratings are now at stake.
Your tenacity is not open to question, maybe you can pull a pheonix from the ashes and go forwards, but right now your people are suffering. 30+years in aviation and I've never seen the like.
Your people are deserting, you are not stupid Mike do the right thing.
Move on. Rebuild.