rgbrock1
I cannot disagree with any of your post, it is accurate and I subscribe to the beliefs expressed. Short of an unlawful command, any requests are a subtle form of command. There is a protocol in an uncharged environment.
If I may, and with no concrete knowledge of this incident, what appears to have happened is a challenge to heirarchy. Whether by misunderstanding, pride, or short temper, the fundamental chain cannot be compromised, it is as Juud has written: touchy Captain, deferent staff.
The touchier, the more respect is called for. This is not fair, it isn't agreeable, it isn't gentlemanly, and it may be mitigated at another time.
If on the same team, and Captain has drawn his sword, leave yours in its sheath. A challenge of any sort disrespects the entire crew.