guntop88,
I think training later in life i.e. 30's / 40's and having experienced another career before entering aviation gives you a direct comparison with a previous career you can very quickly see that a lot of the time the lifestyle is frankly not very good at times for a pilot.
Add to that a wife and children who are used to you being there and suddenly you are away, you can't commit to family or social occasions because your roster doesn't go that far ahead or your bid for holiday comes back in a different month to the one that you asked for!! Makes for an unhappy and frustrating time no matter how good the sunset is!!
I shared a lot of the experience's you mention and I was on jet for a loco. I'd be under no illusion that even when things pick up and you move to a bigger ship, I don't think all that much would change to be honest; when I flew it was the very same things that frustrated everybody, tiredness, lack of control over your life for social occasions and holidays, crap hours and rostering etc....I do think a fixed roster would be a huge plus with a family.
I am back doing what I used to do and family life is much more settled again. Hand on heart I miss the flying at times but as others have posted you can always fly for fun.
Good luck with what you decide.