We all know flying isnt the safest thing to do in the world
If that is your belief, why are you doing it? Surely it is simple- don't do it. Aviation doesn't need you, and you don't need the risk to your children not having you bring them up. People can be kind to you and try and persuade you, but you are not ready or mature enough. Come back in 10 years. You'll hate the little sods and be ready to do it, come what may.
I know what makes children. It was quite fun I recall. My 3 are grown and flown. And I will be flying with one of them this weekend. And I'm a grandfather, and I fly for a living, and I haven't burst into tears at the thought one of my grandchildren might be denied a grandfather because of my professional flying duties! And I am immature enough to be a 747, 737 and 757 Captain for 20 years! And I have no sympathy for quivering lower lips.