make your statement about unacceptability, but offer the defendant the chance to apologise and/or give him a week in the Sin Bin (which you apparently do sometimes)
That's what grown ups would do. Apologise for the indiscretion and move on.
This "Sin Bin" is what happened to me. I made an ill-judged comment on Beret wearing - pretty trivial in the grand scheme of things looking at some of the comments/issues on here. I then posted in what I thought was "banter" towards the Mods - no swearing and nothing politically incorrect. The result - Sin Bin (or the "cooler"!) for 7 days. I wrote to the Webmaster who decided that they would stand by their Mods - fair enough really, I suppose.
However, this all left me with a very bad feeling of being too harshly treated without adequate warning - the warning came with the ban!! Hence, I posted in my "hissy fit" state about a fortnight ago that I was finished with Prune - whilst I still feel agrieved, I don't feel alone as this would also appear to be happening to others.
If I'm going to the "Cooler" for another week - at least let me take my baseball and glove this time
LJ