the captain will "force" me to ask for it putting his hand in the lever,
I find this very annoying when the captain / other pilot does this to me.
Especially when the other pilot expects me to ask for gear and flap up/down at a different point to SOP.
At other times/situations, it may not be clearly defined in the SOP's but these captains believe everyone should be flying to the captains own technique as if this is the one and only way to fly.
There are quite often several different techniques within the SOP's.
Kind off an insult to my flying ability too.
It's as if I am not aware when to call for gear or flap.
I might as well sit in the back if they are going to talk me through everything.
Otherwise maybe some of these control freaks just like to be in full control and perhaps don't like an FO asking the captain to do things (giving orders).
I often wonder how these captains would react if started doing the same to them (placing my hand on the gear and flap lever before they ask for it) ?
I am sure they wouldn't like it all and it could possibly lead to conflict in the flight deck