It was and still is a funny story and for clariffication i usually am not referred to as Captain, and for the record i politely asked my FO to go and have a look at our fuelling issues as it is in line with our company policy that the FO does that task.
It appears the negativity i refered to in my original post is alive and well.
My FO and i both had a good giggle and had no CRM issues either earlier, then or for the rest of an enjoyable pairing so for the moaning grannies out there get a life!!!