extremely rare in civil aviation...so are crashes.
In one plane I flew, when it gets into a deep stall, you must push the ''stick'' all the way forward to the stop to get ouf ot the stall. This particular plane, of which I speak, is a t tail jet and doesn't have a pusher.
while I agree with you, smoothness is usually very, very good, the learned survival instinct of pushing forward might just save your life...I've seen pilots smoothly apply rudder to get back to the centerline and ended up almost in the weeds.
I do wish that more airlines would do a few hours in the actual plane...no matter how good sims are, the plane is different.