Thank you one and all for some very interesting reading.
I was practicing crosswind landing on Sunday and since then I have had this horrible feeling that I will be unable ever to master it. The reply about "giving you a lot of work on the flare" is bang on as my instructor wants me to crab until just before flare and then wing down and opposite rudder. My problem seemed to be that I did not know by how much (wing down and rudder that is!) I was fearful of touching the tarmac with wing or drifting off the tarmac completely. I also had difficulty flaring too high.
This all resulted in a depressingly bad lesson.
It was reassuring to read that many, many people are in the same situation!