cxkate,
The fact that your husband puts you and your families future ahead of a sensless union ban makes him an honourable and admirable man in my book. Just be aware that as with the '89 pilots dispute, there are those that simply will not acknowledge that theirs is not the only point of view in the world, and maintain that anyone acting contrary to their wishes is some lower form of life. Often their posinous vitriol is spread to their families, and wives and children become front line soldiers in their battles.
In the end, your job is not your life. Go to Honkers, enjoy the lifestyle, and when husband comes home upset because he's had a run-in with some hot head, give him a warm hug, a cold beer, and go about the rest of your life in pride and dignity.
The best of luck to you both.