Are you all just assuming that i know nothing about mental illness. Having had my father in law trying to kill himself after my mother in law left i think i know quite a bit on the subject. Yes of course he wasn't thinking straight all he could see was the fact his wife had left him. He thought that his life was worthless. Slowly and surely we convinced him otherwise. But the pain he caused by his attempted suicide was selfishness on his part too. He didn't care about anybody but himself and his feelings, which he has every right to do. But he didn't stop to think about the effect it had on everybody. And after losing their mother how his children would feel having to mourn their father. So don't tell me i don't understand i do .