PAXboy,
With you 100% on this.
A good friend of mine lost his wife in a similar way, leaving husband and two kids. My first reaction was on of anger towards her, but that was soon replaced with a feeling of sympathy for her as well as the rest of the family.
I knew her before she became ill, and I assure you that she would never have done anything like that then. What she did was spur of the moment, at a time when she had little control over her life. What goes on the the grey matter of us all is not understood even by the professionals in my opinion.
My sympathies to all concerned in this case too.
PS