Howsit. Not really the best to answer, but i'm gonna anyway. Things I got told that worked:
1: Make the f***ing aeroplane do what you want. Its just a hunk of metal so be positive with it.
2: Relax, as above. theres no need to panic.
3: Look out the window as advertised, not inside.
4: Relax, no need to panic.
5: Enjoy it,thats what flying is for.
6: Buy your an instructor a beer after the flight.
7: On landing, when trying to judge the flare height, wait until you can see the instructor tense, and flare.Should be spot on.
have a good one, all the best.