now i found this in my e-mail
(1) Get your email filtered by your ISP. Instruct them to throw away spam rather than put it into any "spam folder".
(2) If you can't do that, run spam filtering locally. Configure it to throw away spam rather than put it into any "spam folder".
(3) Then apply brain when looking at incoming emails. If it looks like spam from the header, delete it unread.
(4) If you get so far as opening an email before noticing it's spam, you can still delete it without reading all of it.
This way you don't read spam, mostly. If you don't read it you can't worry about it, and more particularly you won't waste other people's time posting questions about it.