You are just the type of person amongst many others on this forum I am hoping not to meet once I get to a Sqaudron.
...then I think you're going to be sorely disappointed, me old - you're not going to get the choice. The onus is on you to fit in with the organisation; if you can't do that you ain't gonna last long. Gay or straight, that kind of attitude smacks of arrogance in the extreme and will have you out the door in no time.
The boys and girls need to be able to trust you with their lives - if they feel your agenda lies anywhere other than 100% dedication to the job, even to the detriment of self, then that trust will not develop.
I predict you will not even last beyond the first 'black Friday' on IOT.