Fiona, I am sorry for your situation. You do indeed seem to have had a hard time. My comment however was not aimed at you. It was aimed at those who think starting a witch hunt on a stranger via an anonymous internet forum is acceptable.
You have been on the receiving end of a witch hunt I know, but I have to ask myself if participating in one to extract revenge may just lower yourself to his level and strip you off the dignity you have clearly displayed to this point.
Just my thoughts having seen the way things tend to work on here.