Excuuuuuuuuse me! Gaipilot, aren't you being a bit presumptious in assuming that the Station Commander will be a bloke and have a wife. Haven't you considered the possibility that your Station Commander might be a woman? She may, like you, be gay; possibly straight or even completely celibate in any direction and not give a tinker's cuss if you are straight, listing to port or spiral. What if your Station Commander is a bloke, gay and takes an instant dislike to you because he is deeply jealous of your life partner?
Behave like a %uckwit and people will treat you with the contempt you deserve - being a gay %uckwit won't make much difference.