Other half,
My position was a general one, and not related specifically to this prog. As I said, I was looking at the issue from a more general perspective. This approach towards handling the issue of bereavement and many veterans issues in general is short sighted and will be counter productive.
I am glad that you were helped by it - I dread to think about the tens of thousands of widows and orphans who have had to make do in the past. I am sorry if you are offended - it was (and is not) my intention to have done that and I wish you well moving on and as you continue to heal.
I apologise for being cack handed and insensitive with the tone of my post.
Al