Outside of training, I cannot remember doing a cross deck landing in more than 30 years offshore flying. In that time the other pilot has had experience from brand new to captain, so broad range of experience. Yes night flying requires more time, slower approach, at least one good brief so both are in tune. Many, but not all by any means, give a short commentary on the way down i.e. "good sight picture, clear of obstacles, coming/crossing the deck edge." This works for me as I have a mental picture of the approach and the delivery gives me an idea of their state of mind. If I'm relaxed then there's a good chance the other guy is too.
I appreciate that this may not appeal to many, but it keeps my stress levels down.