Stanleycup said
and also, you are no longer in the military and therefore the first officers need NOT to take your stupid orders.
You have a US tag on your avatar so from a US point of view, you are quite incorrect.
The FARs are quite clear there is only one PILOT IN COMMAND. Granted a good crew works together and does not get to the point where the PIC has to give commands but it happens.
And it is usually referred to as a 'technique', not a 'technic'. Most of the PICs are happy to leave the F/O to his/her own devices as long as they abide by procedure and do a good job. The problem sometimes arises however that the new guys/gals don't know half as much as they think they do. And you're right. It is not rocket science but it is also not just a moving video game.
A bit of advice which will probably be wasted.. if you feel this adamant and angry while still just a F/O, you may not last long enough to make Capt and if you do, you may not make it to retirement. Anger and stress have a way of quieting things down while reducing body temperature... to room temperature.