Some years ago, Rivets, I was on a hospital credential committee considering a new neurosurgeon. He brought a track record of obnoxious behavior from several prior places. Yelling, throwing stuff, cussing at nurses, that sort of thing. I was opposed to him. It always gets worse with time, and we had enought of those bozos.
A surgeon colleague looked at me, and simply said "but who do you want looking after your 17 year-old who's been in a car wreck - the demanding one, or the touchy-feely one?"
He was right. The guy was a bozo. A very skilled bozo.
Continued best wishes, LR. You've had good treatment.