flybymike, pray enlighten us, which recent courts martial of a military controller are you on about? I'm only aware of one courts martial and that was nothing to do with under-provision of adequate traffic info under a FIS, it was all about safety altitudes and terrain clearance responsibility.
I do however agree with your defence of the GA pilot. In my 20+ years as an air traffic controller I have found the airline chaps to be the worst at looking out and seeing other aircraft.