I think the best thing I could say in terms of this discusssion is............
"Whilst "by the book" procedures, speeds, rules etc are laudable and good for the purposes of training and use in the ideal situations, we tend to stay alive in this game by knowing the theory, respecting it, but using it as a benchmark.
When we are in situations that demand variances, we have to quickly assimilate the contributing factors & accept them. These can be pilot, aircraft, other aircraft, ground facilities & guidance, weather, whether we have an exceptional situation or not, etc, etc, etc.
When we are in a situation where the factors start to make the "airliner" rules illogical and in some cases downright unsafe or inconsiderate, then we have to use our skill and experience to do the best thing and still pull off a safe and accurate landing.
Key to this is developing a more intimate knowledge of our own and our aircraft's capabilities & limitations. If we do not know this, then we are a potential liability to ourselves and others and should stay on the ground.
If you live by rules rigidly, then one day the commonest rule - Murphy's Law - will inevitably wake up and bite you on the bum.