Hi Gingernut,
Remember when you first sat astride a bicycle, well its nearly the same, just patiance, I very nearly gave up on Heli training , I could not get the hover, I was like a drunk with a broken leg, but I was trying so hard I lost the ability to reason with myself, CFI told me we were stopping for a brew, gave me a little talking to , about the grip of death, and then we went out again, it very nearly clicked there and then, but it did by the next two lessons, so dont even consider giving up, relax allow your mind to soak it all in and just get on with it, we've all been there, some longer than others, but look what you'll miss if you give up. Let us know how you get on!