Thank God I'm not the only one ... I'm reading this after last night's two hours spent trying to perfect this in a Grob. First few landings I flared too early after a perfect 65kt approach; then one where I didn't flare until too late (if at all) and almost dropped it nosewheel first. It's bloody difficult. Evo, I'm about at the same stage as you hours-wise, and having the same gripes - but I reckon a few more hours practice and it'll get better. Keep on trying!
As a postscript - the student who took the aircraft up immediately after me yesterday evening had a total engine failure and ended up on a golf course minus the nosewheel and with a bent prop ... so at least my landing was smoother than that!!!